gemmacat:

bittergrapes:

alright, i know i’m a dude, but let me just point out that female-identified people are people too, just like anyone else, and hence DON’T DO SHIT THAT THEY DON’T WANT THEM TO DO.

When a female-identified person screams and fights or says to stop, you fucking stop. This is the kind of mentality that feeds rape culture, and if you say i’m overacting - no. just no. 

you don’t gaslight people (“get her mad, then kiss her”). you respect their boundaries (stopping when they tell you to stop). you don’t manipulate them or ignore their boundaries or pretend you know what they want (“she’ll scream and fight with you, but secretly, she loves it”). you don’t do stupid shit that could get both of you killed (“hold her hand when you drive”). you don’t treat her like a goddamn china doll that can’t do anything for herself (“protect her”). you don’t ignore someone’s feelings of anger or frustration by making it into a fucking romantic comedy or acting like their legitimate anger is ‘cute’ (“when she starts swearing at you, tell her you love her”).

jesus christ, it’s shit like this that encourages men to ignore women’s boundaries and for women to think that sexual harassment is ‘romantic’. fucking hell. 

Bittergrapes is so right. Now imagine if this advice was told to a girl. Do things to him, even when he tells you to stop. I legit can’t think of one of my male friends who wouldn’t think that girl was an idiot. Boys don’t want that. Girls, we don’t want this. OP is probably some starry-eyed girl but SERIOUSLY. If you want a boy who doesn’t listen to you, treats you like a child, and ignores your anger, don’t give advice.

Um, how about no to everything on this list? What is wrong with the person who made this graphic? I feel sorry for you and anyone else who’s reblogged this because they agree with you, but I hope that some of them have enough sense not to listen to crappy advice like this. I would say that you should have a relationship of your own so you could give good advice, but I wouldn’t anyone to have to deal with dating you, god forbid you harm them by throwing them into a pool because, you know, what if they can’t swim or hit their head on the floor or just don’t want to swim? Or if you trigger them by doing one of the other senseless things on here?

Excellent commentary above mine, which isn’t eloquent commentary as much as it is a rant.

(Source: staypozitive, via lived)