I didn’t realize I could hate you more. Well done, that’s quite an accomplishment. So, let’s talk about that “I don’t know PoC well enough to write about them” thing again? Taking into account this time that you actively try to alienate, misrepresent, and avoid them? You are a disgrace.
Lena Dunham is an asshole and a bigot! File that under “shit POC know but that other people don’t really care about”!
Wow it makes me so happy to know that my hatred of Lena Dunham/Girls is totally justified (◡‿◡✿)
uggh i don’t know. i’ve tried to hate girls and Lena Dunham, but i can’t. i can and do hate the ignorant things she does, like this thing, but i just..i don’t know. i know i’m a white girl and thus it’s easy for me to be like “lolz it’s no biggie she’s just JKing calm down yall!” (which is not what i think—everybody has every right to be rill fucking angry at her ignorance,) but like…i don’t think she’s a bad person. i don’t think she intentionally does fucked up stuff. i don’t think she thinks all the time. and while that’s obviously not AT ALL an excuse for being a flip, wanton idiot, i do get the sense that when someone tells her why and how this is fucked up and dumb, she will feel bad. i think Lena Dunham will feel sorry that she did this thing, and won’t do it again. i don’t know, i think a big factor of my uneasiness is how (uncomfortably, oh god…so uncomfortably) similar i feel to her, because like..i’ve done stuff along these lines before too. not so much in the past ~1.5 years or so because i’m trying harder than i ever have to inform myself about how not to be an offensive idiot, but like…had i had fame and a twitter feed when i was 18, i probably would have said dumb shit like this for a joke and not even realized what i did wrong. but because people (whether directly addressing me or a more general audience) have called me out on these things and made me realize what’s wrong about them, i thought about it, agreed, and stopped. i don’t want to be a Lena Dunham apologist (hahah kill me, that term) but i feel weird vilifying her and all her work because she is, despite her ~liberal arts education~, and despite her New York upbringing, and despite her artsy parents and quirky tattoos and probable love of Indian food, and like tons and tons and really mostly all privileged white people, blind to shit she shouldn’t be blind to. maybe she IS just this hugely bigoted dick who doesn’t care who she hurts, but i get the sense she is more like me: a blundering privileged idiot in the world of race, class, etc. who means well and tries but keeps tripping over herself. i have watched Girls and enjoyed it a lot. i think it needs to address a lot of issues like YESTERDAY, but i don’t think you can deny that Girls is doing something special, and that Lena Dunham is talented, and that, i hope at least, she is more kind and open-minded and conscientious than things like this picture would imply. i don’t know what the solution is, here. i can’t and won’t tell people not be angry, because they should be. and if she keeps doing things like this and not apologizing, then i’ll reconsider my stance. but for now, i just…i want to see what she does with these little privilege wake up calls, instead of acting like she’s rush limbaugh and should be publicly flogged.
Her ‘apologies’ (if you could call them that), I think, make things even worse. Regardless of the current news (which, how the fuck do you miss the news of both the Wisconsin shootings AND the Joplin mosque burning? One, okay, but both?), did Dunham not think, even a little, about the current political situation? It’s still not safe for Muslims (though I’ve heard rebuttals that ~there are other religious fundamentalists~, come on, WE ALL KNOW WHICH RELIGIOUS FUNDAMENTALISTS DUNHAM IS REFERRING TO HERE) in America, and Islamophobia is still very real. When I saw Dunham’s bogus apology, it made me even angrier, because that means she would’ve thought it would’ve been okay to post that anyway, had she not known about current events.
And I’m sure Dunham isn’t a bad person, per se. But her attitude towards criticism of her show is bullshit. She’s said she doesn’t write a diversified New York because that’s not the kind of environment she grew up in, and she doesn’t write PoC characters because she’s ~doesn’t know how to write their experience~. Hello, bullshit. She went to NYU, she grew up in New York City, she went to Oberlin. How did she miss all of the people of color, all of the women of color? She couldn’t hire one measly women of color for her writing staff? Couldn’t ask a black girlfriend what her experience is like? Or even better, just make one of her main characters a woman of color? How hard is it for her to imagine women of color living the same lives or having the same experiences as she and her white friends do??
I hate Lena Dunham unapologetically because I hate people like Lena Dunham: blind to their privilege and not knowing how the little things she does hurts people like me. And then, even when it’s pointed out to them, makes a bullshit excuse and just deletes the evidence, but I doubt Lena Dunham learned anything from this experience, other than - oops! Gotta read the news before I post something problematic, or I’ll overstep some boundary of humor (sounds like Tosh, I have to say).
It is a small anger, and it is an irrational one. But it is literally my only defense against Dunham. I am forced, as you know, to listen to bullshit about how good Tiny Furniture/Girls is, or how real the characters are, or how cool/down-to-earth/feminist Dunham is from people from school, from mass media, from the internet, wherever. Maybe other people can watch Girls and find it notable for its realistic portrayal of 20-year-olds or something, but I know that if I watch Girls, I will only notice the overwhelming presence of white people in my city, the privilege her characters flaunt, and the privilege Dunham has herself for being able to erase the experiences of countless New Yorkers just because they are people of color.
I don’t care if you or anyone else likes Girls or thinks Lena Dunham is some feminist liberal arts goddess, and I don’t think any less of people who watch Girls or like it. But I will forever staunchly hate Girls and Lena Dunham, and I refuse to hear excuses for her behavior. ARGH LENA DUNHAM.
Notice how she said, “Didn’t realize it was a bad time it was to make a joke like that,” as though it would’ve been acceptable to do so at a time when the attacks hadn’t just happened. Newsflash, Lena: It’s not okay now, and it never will be. Just don’t do it.