bad girls do it well Cristy, 23, New York City. Hong Kong-Chinese American womanist. Cis girl, she/her/hers.
This blog is a collection of the personal, the pretty, and the sociopolitical.
Trigger warning for rape/sexual assault, trans/misogyny, racism, and anti-Blackness.
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frankieztein:

I am always scared to talk about rape when there are men around, because I fear that someone might say something along the lines of “No that’s not rape, I did that once” if you talk about that consent cant be given when someone is asleep or too intoxicated. 

I cant imagine the horror of sitting in a room, with a guy who just declared himself a rapist, and then have to move on from there. 

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http://wu-wei-clan.tumblr.com/post/98347783823/angrywocunited-the-fetishization-of-asian-women

(TW: rape.)

angrywocunited:

The fetishization of Asian women leads to sexual violence:

  • Michael Lohman, a third-year doctoral student at Princeton University, cut locks of hair from at least nine Asian women and poured his urine and semen into the drinks of Asian women more than 50 times in Princeton’s graduate student dining hall. When investigators searched Lohman’s apartment, which he shared with his Asian wife, they found stolen women’s underwear and mittens containing the hairs of Asian women, which they believe Lohman used to masturbate. The university failed to acknowledge that Lohman’s victims were Asian women. Yin Ling Leung, organizational director of the National Asian Pacific American Women’s Forum (NAPAWF), agreed that the University misidentified the problem. Leung argued that the Asian fetish syndrome triggered Lohman’s behavior. “Sexual assault of Asian women on college campuses is a major issue. You get a room of five Asian American women together, and they all have stories about sexual harassment. Mainstream America shrugs off the notion of Asian fetishes, believing men who have such fetishes “are harmless.”
  • David Dailey and Edmund “Eddie” Ball abducted, handcuffed, and blindfolded two Japanese schoolgirls, ages 18 and 19, in Spokane, Washington. The two girls were taken to a house and raped repeatedly over a span of 7 hours. Eddie Ball, the mastermind behind the crime, professed an avid fascination in bondage, sadomasochism and Japanese culture. He collected Japanese bondage videos and was an expert in Japanese rope-tying techniques. At his home, police found numerous Japanese-language books. Ball specifically targeted Japanese students because he believed them to be submissive and thus less likely to report the rapes. However, he believed wrongly. The students reported the crime and aided police in catching the perpetrators. Dailey and Ball faced sentences of 21 to 28 years in prison.
  • Lili Wang, a North Carolina State University (NCSU) graduate student, who became the victim of what may have been a racially-motivated crime. Richard Borelli Anderson had a strong sexual preference for Asian women because “they study hard, and they’re very nice, soft speaking.” In October of 2002, Anderson fired four gun shots into Wang, killing her before turning the gun on himself. Police found his body five feet away from Wang.
    Professor Andrew Chin maintained that this was a hate crime,
    but the NCSU police disagreed. “There is no evidence to suggest that the offender, Richard Anderson, acted on any bias against Lili Wang because of her race,” said John Daily, deputy director of the NCSU Police Department. Professor Chin contended that “if you view the chain of events and link the events together, including what may appeared to have been unwanted advances on a married woman [Wang], which lead to the murder, this may be a form of racial discrimination against an [Asian] woman. Chin believed the victim did nothing to bring about the senseless act, other than being an Asian woman.
But not all men are like that!!!!!

radioinactivity:

vertigoambrosia:

piscula:

men can take upskirt pictures of women and girls because women in public spaces have no legal expectation of privacy

women are treated as property that can be bought and sold and stolen as opposed to people

girls as young as kindergarten are called “sluts” for wearing a short skirt and forced to change clothes because boys and men might be distracted

men and boys literally cannot seem to empathize with women (because i swear to god if melinda was a male character and everything else was the same the boys would not be asking that question)

men view women as literal objects

men build their own superiority into achievement tests that (in america) determine your future prospects

men believe that fat women don’t deserve to be loved simply because they are fat

women are villified for normal miscarriages and for aborting fetuses that were the result of rape (not to mention intentionally asserting bodily autonomy simply because you don’t want a fetus)

women can be raped on screen but cannot masturbate on screen (even though men have masturbated on screen all the fucking time)

not wearing makeup is one of the ways that psychologists determine if a woman is mentally healthy

men have flat out stated that even if there is concrete evidence that a rape happened they would vote not guilty if on a jury

women need about 6 more years of education than men on average to make a comparable amount of money

male oolice officers have arrested women for resisting their advances with no initial punishment (until activists spoke up)

and this is just what i can think of recently.  There is so so so so so much more

not all men are like that, but enough are

and if your first thought when reading something like this is ‘but what about the men??’ you’re closer to those dudes than you think

lol ask me again why im sick of men

(Source: womxxn, via halloweenismybday)

polyamorousmisanthrope:

labelleizzy:

mizufae:

pastel-gizibe:

shannonwest:

equalityandthecity:

(via Students help Emma Sulkowicz carry mattress to class in first collective carry)

Y E S 

IT IS GETTING BETTER

When I first read about this woman’s plan I thought it was a strong idea but I was worried that it was a little bit much for one person, no matter how dedicated, to keep it up for too long, especially since she has, you know, college to commit to. I never thought about how, if other people helped her carry her burden, I never thought about how much it would look like pallbearers with a coffin. Which is simply one of the strongest visual symbols one can use to disturb people in the western world.

you rock it, young feminist protesters. Fuck yeah, I am so proud of you.

Yes, they’re awesome.
But I think there is another part about this I like, too.  Notice the burden of that pain is being shared — made lighter by women committed to being here and helping.  They can’t fix it, of course but mutual support makes the burden lighter.
No wonder the patriarchy wants us in competition with each other…

polyamorousmisanthrope:

labelleizzy:

mizufae:

pastel-gizibe:

shannonwest:

equalityandthecity:

(via Students help Emma Sulkowicz carry mattress to class in first collective carry)

Y E S 

IT IS GETTING BETTER

When I first read about this woman’s plan I thought it was a strong idea but I was worried that it was a little bit much for one person, no matter how dedicated, to keep it up for too long, especially since she has, you know, college to commit to. I never thought about how, if other people helped her carry her burden, I never thought about how much it would look like pallbearers with a coffin. Which is simply one of the strongest visual symbols one can use to disturb people in the western world.

you rock it, young feminist protesters. Fuck yeah, I am so proud of you.

Yes, they’re awesome.

But I think there is another part about this I like, too.  Notice the burden of that pain is being shared — made lighter by women committed to being here and helping.  They can’t fix it, of course but mutual support makes the burden lighter.

No wonder the patriarchy wants us in competition with each other…

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Woman Discovers 'Rape Room' in Comic Book Store; Is Promptly Fired

ohcorny:

acid-anarchism:

kropotkitten:

There’s a comic shop I’ll never be visiting ever again. I hope it goes out of business. fyi it’s the Harrison’s in downtown Salem, MA

signal booooooooooooooost

hooooly shit that’s literally the next town over

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But women can never be careful enough, can we? If we take naked pictures of ourselves, we’re asking for it. If someone can manage to hack into our accounts, we’re asking for it. If we’re not wearing anti-rape nail polish, we’re asking for it. If we don’t take self-defence classes, we’re asking for it. If we get drunk, we’re asking for it. If our skirts are too short, we’re asking for it. If we pass out at a party, we’re asking for it. If we are not hyper-vigilant every single fucking second of every single fucking day, we are asking for it. Even when we are hyper-vigilant, we’re still asking for it. The fact that we exist is asking for it.

This is what rape culture looks like.

This is what misogyny looks like.


from What Happened to Jennifer Lawrence Was Sexual Assault  (via catagator)

(via frustrasian)

Anonymous said: What makes Lena Dunham white feminist devil?

angrywocunited:

According to yourfaveisproblematic:

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designrevolution:

Courtenay McKay created a series of posters for the Gender Based Violence Prevention Project (GBVPP) at the University of Alberta to spread awareness about rape culture.

The Gender Based Violence Prevention Project is a new project of the Students’ Union that promotes a campus free of gender based violence. Gender Based Violence exists in both visible and invisible ways on our campus and affects the lives of many University students, staff, faculty, and community members. Through education, awareness, and institutional change, we are striving to create a campus free of gender based violence where everyone can feel safe and supported.”

(via plannedparenthood)

ethiopienne:

on today’s episode of me having feelings, a series of tweets about “anti-rape nail polish.”

ethiopienne:

on today’s episode of me having feelings, a series of tweets about “anti-rape nail polish.”

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Tumblr, let me tell you a little story about when I walked home today

hermitwithfriends:

It was late, it was dark, and I was fairly distracted by listening to 80’s music because it’s ridiculously catchy. 

Now, I rarely feel scared walking home in the dark. If that’s because I lack a self-preservation instinct or that I stubbornly chanted ‘strong independent woman’ to myself when I was 14, well, who knows?

Point is, I suddenly noticed a long shadow next to mine.

Surprised and unexpectedly terrified, I jump a little and turn around to see a buff guy walking close behind me. As my was simultaneously berating me for getting scared and planning exit routes, he simply stops, raises his hands and goes:

"I’m so sorry to scare you, I really didn’t mean to, excuse me."

He then steps over to the other side of the road, gives me a quick smile, and keeps walking. I looked back a while later, only to see him crossing the road to step into a house on ‘my’ side.

So basically, this guy just stepped away and gave me space to make sure I felt safe, and waited long enough on the other side for me to have gotten far enough away not to be startled when he crossed again. It felt shockingly good to have a guy acknowledge that my fear response wasn’t ‘stupid’, because if he hadn’t I’d probably be bashing myself for the irrational fear that grabbed me. 

I’m not saying that all guys should do this or anything. I’m not even sure what I’m trying to say. It’s just been a while since I saw a guy outside tumblr who didn’t act like because they weren’t rapists, they had nothing to do with the issues of rape culture. Of course, I have no idea who this guy is, maybe he doesn’t know or care about these issues. But he cared enough to make an effort, and to not dismiss my response or blame me for it. To me, that’s something.

[TW: rape]
We do know something about most men who rape. For example, numerous studies have found that while they tend to be more emotionally constricted than nonaggressive men, and are often angry and hostile to women, most of them are psychologically “normal.” The psychologist David Lisak points out that the old stereotype of the rapist was derived in part from extensive studies with incarcerated rapists, many of whom committed acts of grievous violence against their victims, who were often strangers. But according to Lisak, research over the past twenty years clearly demonstrates that the vast majority of rapes are perpetrated by what he calls “undetected rapists,” and they usually know their victims. Undetected rapists are men who typically behave in stereotypically masculine ways, see sex as conquest, and are hypersensitive to any perceived slight against their manhood. But they are not crazy, and they are not sociopaths. “There is simply no evidence, save the rape itself,” Katharine Baker writes in the Harvard Law Review, “suggesting that all or even most rapists are objectively depraved.” Chillingly, she goes on to say that given the social norms that encourage it, there is evidence that rape is “culturally dictated, not culturally deviant.”

Jackson Katz, Macho Paradox: Why Some Men Hurt Women and How All Men Can Help (via wretchedoftheearth)

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queenalexandra-thevegan:

fuckyeavanity:

tigg00bitties:

im-a-walking-paradox:

rape culture simplified by Lil B

Lil B been the real MVP.

no black person is ugly.

Thank You Based God.

queenalexandra-thevegan:

fuckyeavanity:

tigg00bitties:

im-a-walking-paradox:

rape culture simplified by Lil B

Lil B been the real MVP.

no black person is ugly.

Thank You Based God.

(Source: tiemydurag, via leneewashither)

We have serial rapists on the reservation — that are non-Indian — because they know they can get away with it. Many of these cases just get dropped. Nothing happens. And they know they’re free to hurt again.

Charon Asetoyer, executive director of the Native American Women’s Health Education Resource Center in Lake Andes, S.D.

“It’s immoral that the Congress of the United States would stand there and say that Indian women are less than their white counterparts, that we shouldn’t have the same equal protection under the law.”

How abusers get away with targeting Indian women - Salon.com

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http://arnoscrotch.tumblr.com/post/88461956027/sexuality-is-a-choice-women-wouldnt-get

arnoscrotch:

"sexuality is a choice"

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"women wouldn’t get raped if they didn’t wear revealing clothes"

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"there are only two genders"

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"i’m not trying to be sexist/racist, but.."

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"a/bi/pansexuality isn’t real"

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"gay people shouldn’t have children"

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"i don’t want to be friends with a gay person, they could hit on me"

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"you can’t identify with the gender you want to be, only the one you were born with"

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(Source: dalsinrowe)

theinnkeeperlibrarian:

leepacey:

a restaurant in my hometown got a review that said the servers should “show some skin” so the owner added a potato skin special to the menu and all the proceeds from the special go to the west virginia foundation for rape information services (x)

That’s exactly the appropriate response.

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